Day 4 - PUB CHURCH

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We believe that Church has never been confined to a building, so why not meet in a brewery, pub, tap house or bar? Pub Church brings church into the wider world, and brings the wider world back into church.

Each month, Echoes shares conversations that engage both the head and heart in a relaxed, informal setting. We know solid answers are hard to come by, but good questions can be just as enlightening. When we gather, when we congregate together, we believe that God is with us, among us, and in-between us in the conversations we hold.

“I enjoy Pub Church; it reminds me of the centuries when folks gathered at a warm inn during the evening.  Pub Church takes us to a comfortable place to share and discuss our lives, faith, joys and concerns—together.  This is safe space for us to listen and to be heard.” –Shari

Please support us in all the ways that we worship. Your contributions help us to bring God into the lives of people, no matter where we gather. Join us in our work, from near or far. We raise our glasses to you!

Give to Echoes today!

Day 3 - WILD CHURCH

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“Engaging with nature has been a spiritual practice for me and a pathway to experience holy mystery in all seasons and types of creation. I love that Echoes provides a regular rhythm of setting aside time together to be quiet, listen, and notice what is humming in the natural world around us, within ourselves, and how we’re interconnected.” --Danielle

We know that we are part of God’s wonderful, diverse and complex creation. We are interwoven into this precious and fragile planet we call home. Echoes seeks to repair the disconnect between humans and the natural world, God’s first book of revelation.

Wild Church is a practice, a worshipful posture, and a way of re-connecting and re-membering ourselves and our place in Christ’s kin-dom.

“Being able to share insights, collective wisdom and this practice with the Echoes community has been a tremendous gift and I’m grateful for the ways it has helped cultivate awe and wonder and deepened my faith.” –Danielle

Your gifts to Echoes help us to reconnect with our natural home, God’s marvelous creation. All gifts are tax deductible. Return. Restore. Renew.

Give to Echoes today!

Day 2 - PRIDE

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“I discovered Echoes through the Bellingham Pride Festival, it had a booth set up there, along with a sign that said, ‘Seeking Wholeness, Not Harm.’…As a former churchgoer, I felt the need to step away when I came out as a lesbian and seriously began to reconcile my faith and sexuality. Finding Echoes when I did, felt like coming home. Six years later, and I am still a part of Echoes. What keeps me coming back is continually experiencing the radical welcome, acceptance and knowing that my presence matters…” --Callie

Pride matters. It really does. Echoes was founded at Bellingham’s Pride Festival and has continued to have a presence there ever since. We believe in the promise of radical welcome. We accept and honor you just as you were created. Just as you are.

Deep wounding from previous religious experiences are most often the norm for LGBTQ+ people. The traditional church has failed queer people forever.

This is why Echoes practices radical welcome. You are loved. You are beloved. Just as you are. No exceptions.

Help us to continue to practice being a place of wholeness for the LGBTQ+ community instead of a place of harm. Your gifts continue to help us be a community of welcome, of healing and of hope.

Give to Echoes Today!

Learn more about Echoe’s committment to Pride in our video!

Day 1 - EVOLVING FAITH

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“I came to Echoes rather grudgingly. I know that sentence seems odd to be used to promote a church. But I came out of curiosity after I had insisted both to myself and many others that I would never EVER attend church again. ANY church… There has always been a disconnect between what I believed Jesus cared about and what the church cared about.” --Julie

Echoes is a community of people who journey together, no matter where they currently are in their lives. By gathering together, over time, we grow in new and surprising ways.

“As I began attending Echoes, it was a contemplative church meeting in a cozy setting, driven by the social justice and relationship with God that our faith calls us to. Since then it has evolved to become a community interconnected through worship, creativity, neighborly outreach, and interaction with nature. Each of these four aspects draws us closer together as a community.” --Melissa

As we companion one another, we discover new questions, old fears, and evolving perspectives on our lives. We allow room to grow and change. We evolve to embrace our current needs and new revelations.

“Being a part of Echoes has encouraged me to grow in my faith, ask questions, and expand my understanding of a big, loving God who can be seen and worshipped in many ways.  It’s a good thing!” –Chris

Please consider giving to this evolving faith community. With your help, we continue to be a place where all those seeking answers, who want to travel with other doubters, or those who just want to check things out can gather, share, and grow!

Give to Echoes Today!

Winter Solstice Blessing

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written by Emma Donohew - Winter Solstice - December 2019

This longest night of the year is here to offer you some stillness
Go on
Be still.

The days are grey
Fading quickly to black
The rain comes in sheets, drizzles and drips
Inviting all to retreat to different forms of shelter
The sun showing its colors in glimpses
Quickly hides behind clouds settling in for the cold

Winter is Arriving

But she comes with more than just dampness
To help you embrace this Blessing

The quickening sunrises
The early sunsets
Holy darkness fills in around us

The darkening nights allow us to find our inner light

You darkness
Offer us a chance to see anew
The possibility for rebirth of our light once more

Receive winters blessing
A gift to let go of the year and it’s unforgivable moments
A gift to remember all of its joy filled moments

Be Still and welcome the season’s darkness
Allow it to mark a threshold
A short day, but indeed a doorway into the unknown future
A future welcomed by nature and her rhythms of this solstice season

Let this blessing wiggle its way to you in your hibernation
Finding a way to pull the string on that heart light
To illuminate you deep from within

This blessing will be here all winter
Waiting in stillness

You people who have walked in darkness
Breath Deeply

May each day forward, you be blessed with more light
Amen.

Advent-Looking to the Life of Mary

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Driving home from work in the dark last night, I heard one of my favorite traditional Christmas carols on the radio. In it, a pregnant Mary is being led to Bethlehem with Joseph and they pass a cherry tree (the hymn comes from England). Mary asks Joseph to stop and pick her some cherries, citing the baby in her womb. Joseph isn’t having it. He looks at her and says, “The father of your child can pick the cherries for you.”

How bold. How human. How often we forget, after hearing the story of the birth of Jesus our whole lives, what it must have actually been like for everyone involved.

Mary was a very young peasant girl. A girl. Some biblical scholars put her age at 13. She became pregnant out of wedlock, even though she was promised in marriage to Joseph, an older man she may have not known at all.

When I think of the story of Mary, about the Annunciation and the Nativity, I can only think of the popular political catchphrase, “Nevertheless, she persisted.”

Mary was a girl. Mary was poor. Mary was uneducated. Mary lived in a world where she belonged to her father, until she belonged to another man. Yet, Mary said yes to God. She said yes to danger, and to the unknown, and to the breaking of all the social and cultural norms of her day. She said yes.

What would it mean, this Advent, if we spent less time focusing on the coming of Jesus and instead looking at the life, choices, and story of Mary?

What could we learn about courage, persistence, and reckoning with truth if we looked to a young teenage girl from Palestine?

What we need to admit about Thanksgiving

Today is a wonderful opportunity to celebrate meaningful relationships, share delicious food with one another, and express all the gratitudes. 

It’s also a day that we can recognize that the history around Thanksgiving in the US has been told incorrectly. The real story is quite dark, and, as you might guess, involves murder and the pursuit of wealth. Oh, America.

This video is worth watching today. Please do. It’s also worth finding out what Native American land you’re on today and acknowledging that when you say thanks at your meal.

A few years ago an article in the NY Times highlighted inaccuracies in our traditional thanksgiving story. (If you can’t access it, message us and we’ll send you the text.) 

A few excerpts:

And Plymouth, Mr. Loewen noted, was already a village with clear fields and a spring when the Pilgrims found it. “A lovely place to settle,” he said. “Why was it available? Because every single native person who had been living there was a corpse.” Plagues had wiped them out.

It’s been taught that the Pilgrims came because they were seeking religious freedom, but that’s not entirely true, Mr. Loewen said.

The Pilgrims had religious freedom in Holland, where they first arrived in the early 17th century. Like those who settled Jamestown, Va., in 1607, the Pilgrims came to North America to make money, Mr. Loewen said.

“They were also coming here in order to establish a religious theocracy, which they did,” he said. “That’s not exactly the same as coming here for religious freedom. It’s kind of coming here against religious freedom.”

And the translator Squanto? 
He was captured by the English in 1614 and later sold into slavery in Spain, Ms. Sheehan said. He spent several years in England, where he learned English. He returned to New England in 1619, only to find his entire Patuxet tribe dead from smallpox. He met the Pilgrims in March 1621.
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And this is why we need to remember correctly. Our history affects today, how we live, how we act. Colonial oppression is big and strong when we think we are the heroes, the friendly neighbors, the patrons of betterment. Let’s change that, yes?

I’ve appreciated reading this Thanksgiving Address at the dinner table:

The Thanksgiving Address (the Ohen:ton Karihwatehkwen) is the central prayer and invocation for the Haudenosaunee (also known as the Iroquois Confederacy or Six Nations — Mohawk, Oneida, Cayuga, Onondaga, Seneca, and Tuscarora). It reflects their relationship of giving thanks for life and the world around them. The Haudenosaunee open and close every social and religious meeting with the Thanksgiving Address.

It is also said as a daily sunrise prayer and is an ancient message of peace and appreciation of Mother Earth and her inhabitants. The children learn that, according to Native American tradition, people everywhere are embraced as family. Our diversity, like all wonders of Nature, is truly a gift for which we are thankful.

When one recites, the Thanksgiving Address the Natural World is thanked, and in thanking each life- sustaining force, one becomes spiritually tied to each of the forces of the Natural and Spiritual World. The Thanksgiving Address teaches mutual respect, conservation, love, generosity, and the responsibility to understand that what is done to one part of the Web of Life, we do to ourselves)

Haudenosaunee Thanksgiving Address

Greetings to the Natural World

The People

Today we have gathered and we see that the cycles of life continue. We have been given the duty to live in balance and harmony with each other and all living things. So now, we bring our minds together as one as we give greetings and thanks to each other as people.

Now our minds are one.

The Earth Mother

We are all thankful to our Mother, the Earth, for she gives us all that we need for life. She supports our feet as we walk about upon her. It gives us joy that she continues to care for us as she has from the beginning of time. To our mother, we send greetings and thanks.

Now our minds are one.

The Waters

We give thanks to all the waters of the world for quenching our thirst and providing us with strength. Water is life. We know its power in many forms-waterfalls and rain, mists and streams, rivers and oceans. With one mind, we send greetings and thanks to the spirit of Water.

Now our minds are one.

The Fish

We turn our minds to the all the Fish life in the water. They were instructed to cleanse and purify the water. They also give themselves to us as food. We are grateful that we can still find pure water. So, we turn now to the Fish and send our greetings and thanks.

Now our minds are one.

The Plants

Now we turn toward the vast fields of Plant life. As far as the eye can see, the Plants grow, working many wonders. They sustain many life forms. With our minds gathered together, we give thanks and look forward to seeing Plant life for many generations to come.

Now our minds are one.

The Food Plants

With one mind, we turn to honor and thank all the Food Plants we harvest from the garden. Since the beginning of time, the grains, vegetables, beans and berries have helped the people survive. Many other living things draw strength from them too. We gather all the Plant Foods together as one and send them a greeting of thanks.

Now our minds are one.

The Medicine Herbs

Now we turn to all the Medicine herbs of the world. From the beginning, they were instructed to take away sickness. They are always waiting and ready to heal us. We are happy there are still among us those special few who remember how to use these plants for healing. With one mind, we send greetings and thanks to the Medicines and to the keepers of the Medicines.

Now our minds are one.

The Animals

We gather our minds together to send greetings and thanks to all the Animal life in the world. They have

many things to teach us as people. We are honored by them when they give up their lives so we may use their bodies as food for our people. We see them near our homes and in the deep forests. We are glad they are still here and we hope that it will always be so.

Now our minds are one.

The Trees

We now turn our thoughts to the Trees. The Earth has many families of Trees who have their own instructions and uses. Some provide us with shelter and shade, others with fruit, beauty and other useful things. Many people of the world use a Tree as a symbol of peace and strength. With one mind, we greet and thank the Tree life.

Now our minds are one.

The Birds

We put our minds together as one and thank all the Birds who move and fly about over our heads. The Creator gave them beautiful songs. Each day they remind us to enjoy and appreciate life. The Eagle was chosen to be their leader. To all the Birds-from the smallest to the largest-we send our joyful greetings and thanks.

Now our minds are one.

The Four Winds

We are all thankful to the powers we know as the Four Winds. We hear their voices in the moving air as they refresh us and purify the air we breathe. They help us to bring the change of seasons. From the four

directions, they come, bringing us messages and giving us strength. With one mind, we send our greetings and thanks to the Four Winds.

Now our minds are one.

The Thunderers

Now we turn to the west where our grandfathers, the Thunder Beings, live. With lightning and thundering voices, they bring with them the water that renews life. We are thankful that they keep those evil things made by Okwiseres underground. We bring our minds together as one to send greetings and thanks to our Grandfathers, the Thunderers.

Now our minds are one.

The Sun

We now send greetings and thanks to our eldest Brother, the Sun. Each day without fail he travels the sky from east to west, bringing the light of a new day. He is the source of all the fires of life. With one mind, we send greetings and thanks to our Brother, the Sun.

Now our minds are one.

Grandmother Moon

We put our minds together to give thanks to our oldest Grandmother, the Moon, who lights the night-time sky. She is the leader of woman all over the world, and she governs the movement of the ocean tides. By her changing face we measure time, and it is the Moon who watches over the arrival of children here on Earth. With one mind, we send greetings and thanks to our Grandmother, the Moon.

Now our minds are one.

The Stars

We give thanks to the Stars who are spread across the sky like jewelry. We see them in the night, helping the Moon to light the darkness and bringing dew to the gardens and growing things. When we travel at night, they guide us home. With our minds gathered together as one, we send greetings and thanks to the Stars.

Now our minds are one.

The Enlightened Teachers

We gather our minds to greet and thank the enlightened Teachers who have come to help throughout the ages. When we forget how to live in harmony, they remind us of the way we were instructed to live as people. With one mind, we send greetings and thanks to these caring teachers.

Now our minds are one.

The Creator

Now we turn our thoughts to the creator, or Great Spirit, and send greetings and thanks for all the gifts of Creation. Everything we need to live a good life is here on this Mother Earth. For all the love that is still around us, we gather our minds together as one and send our choicest words of greetings and thanks to the Creator.

Now our minds are one.

Closing Words

We have now arrived at the place where we end our words. Of all the things we have named, it was not our

intention to leave anything out. If something was forgotten, we leave it to each individual to send such greetings and thanks in their own way.

Now our minds are one.

Stories Are Better When Shared

Photo by Emma Donohew of Molly the Hound

Photo by Emma Donohew of Molly the Hound

In May, 2018, Boldly Went hosted their first-ever Bellingham-based storytelling event. It turned out to be an important occasion for Emma, as she would meet another storyteller, Charis, the person who started Echoes (the funky, experimental church that hosts the blog you’re reading right now) and whom she would eventually get to share in leadership with!

Emma’s Side of Things (You can read Charis’ side here!)

One of the reasons I moved back to Bellingham, was to be closer to my home mountains, the Cascades.

I missed the proximity to this land, these trees and the paths that wind their way through them. Returning back to Bellingham 10 years later was not without its joys and challenges. Reconnecting with old friends, making new and finding your way, always takes some time. So I was grateful to find out that someone who I had been connected with in Seattle, had also moved to Bellingham and invited me to the Boldly Went Podcast when it came through town! 

I love storytelling podcasts, so to get to hear stories, particularly ones about adventure from diverse backgrounds and experiences seemed like the perfect way to spend an evening.

I wasn’t sure if I was really ready to tell a personal adventure story. Particularly this story that had not been told to anyone yet. A story about hiking up in the Cascades with my hound dog Molly, and finding a couple in need of very particular skills, ones that I just happened to have. 

So I sat with my notes in hand, and little slip of paper, trying to figure out if now was the time and place to unleash this story onto the world. I love telling stories, but the first time you tell anything, a little bit of fear creeps in. You wonder will people even want to hear this story? 

Then I recalled the words of Adventure writer, Cheryl Strayed. 

“Hello, fear. Thank you for being here. You’re my indication that I’m doing what I need to do.”

So I said hello to fear, and wrote my name down and put it into the proverbial hat. 

Well, fear once greeted, isn’t easily dismissed, so once my name was called, I had to summon the courage once again to walk up and put that storytelling microphone around my neck.

But stories, like life, are better when shared. So as I looked out on these faces of people who also had unique stories to tell, the words came (along with a few jokes too). Telling a story to a Boldly Went audience felt not only comfortable, but also truly authentic. 

While, I didn’t climb a really tall mountain, or encounter a bear (at least on this hike), my story was full of adventure too. An adventure of encountering my authentic self, and being reminded once more that you can never escape your calling. I hope you’ll take a listen here.

I loved getting to hear the other stories told that evening, So when i had to leave early to attend the finals for my Bowling League, I was sorry to miss the last few. I specifically recall a wonderful person making a point to tell me that she appreciated my story on the way out. That person happened to be Charis, someone whose story also appears on the Boldly Went podcast and is the faithful founder and leader of Echoes. I am deeply grateful that I was able to hear her story on the podcast and appreciate her awesomeness too!
i hope you’ll listen to her story here!

When you gather to tell & hear stories you never know who you might meet or what connections might be forged! Boldly Went helped connect me to Charis and ultimately to Echoes, this funky community seeking to REdefine church. When Charis asked me months later to meet for coffee because she had heard me share a story on an adventure podcast, I was overwhelmed with gratitude that I had shared my story. So when Charis asked me if I was interested in helping to pastor a funky Church that appreciates people, community, the outdoors & stories, I immediately said yes! By sharing a story, I was able to find a community where stories are being shared week in and week out.

So do come and hear some stories, but better yet say hello to fear and share a story! Maybe one you’ve told before, but maybe one that is just waiting for an authentic place to be shared. 

THIS WEEK, on Thursday, Nov. 14th, from 7-9pm, Boldly Went is hosting their second storytelling event in Bellingham! Tickets are $5-$15, and the sales go toward producing the podcast. Any additional contributions during their tour will go toward the Youth Experiential Training Institute, the recipient of the Great Outdoors Youth Advocacy Award from Bellingham’s own Recreation Northwest! Location is the ever-popular Boundary Bay Brewery, specifically in the Mountain Room. Get your tickets and either work on a story to tell, or support others who will share boldly.

Tickets can be purchased here! https://www.boldlywentadventures.com/buy-tickets.html

The power of storytelling....even adventure stories!

Photo by Charis Weathers

Photo by Charis Weathers

Boldy Went is a storytelling organization that has been traveling the PNW for the past few years, hosting events where locals can tell their adventure stories. Ordinary people get to share their stories, whether they are life-or-death, or life-changing, or memorable for a mishap or a new courage. Stories are a max of ten minutes, and some are incorporated into Boldly Went’s podcast. They are seriously fun events!! Stories can connect people in powerful ways, which is why organizations like Boldly Went do what they do, and why we focus on stories so much at Echoes.

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THIS WEEK, on Thursday, Nov. 14th, from 7-9pm, Boldly Went is hosting their second storytelling event in Bellingham! Tickets are $5-$15, and the sales go toward producing the podcast. Any additional contributions during their tour will go toward the Youth Experiential Training Institute, the recipient of the Great Outdoors Youth Advocacy Award from Bellingham’s own Recreation Northwest! Location is the ever-popular Boundary Bay Brewery, specifically in the Mountain Room. Get your tickets and either work on a story to tell, or support others who will share boldly.

In May, 2018, Boldly Went hosted their first-ever Bellingham-based storytelling event. It turned out to be a monumental occasion for Charis, the person who started Echoes (the funky, experimental church that hosts the blog you’re reading right now).

Charis’ side of things: (You can read Emma’s perspective here)

I’ve been an avid follower of the Moth and of other storytelling podcasts, so I was super pumped to come across the Facebook post for the Boldly Went event. Maybe I’d get to tell a story! Although I’m fairly reserved by nature, I do actually like to tell stories and observe the reactions of people listening. But would my name get chosen? I didn’t know, but I put it on my calendar, and prepared a story anyway.

The venue was the Honey Moon Cider House. A sizeable group had shown up for this inaugural event, which was super encouraging in terms of supporting storytelling, but also reduced the chances of one’s name being selected to tell a story. All of the storytellers names are put into a bag and drawn randomly. Because names are drawn on a rolling basis – a new name is drawn right after a story is told – if your name is drawn there isn’t much time to collect your nerves before you’re on.

It already takes a bit of hutzpah to add one’s name to the bag, but to be the first name drawn? That’s always more than a bit intimidating as that person will be the one to set the stage for the whole evening.

I missed the name of the first speaker. She walked to the microphone with quite a lot of poise, I thought, for someone who was just super surprised to have her name called first from of a pile of paper slips. Bellingham had never witnessed a Boldly Went event, and this person was the first-ever to share a story!

She told of a solo hike to a beautiful lake. I can’t recall many of the details, but I do remember my head snapping back when she mentioned that she was a pastor, and during this hike she was wondering about her future as a pastor. I won’t ruin the remarkable, beautiful story with spoilers (here’s the link to listen), but I will say that I sat there, supremely impressed by her storytelling skills, her courage to share her vocation with a non-churchy crowd, and dumbfounded that I didn’t know her! Who was this female pastor? Bellingham is not that big, and there aren’t that many women pastors, especially younger women pastors, so Who? Was? She? I needed to know. Meeting her became my biggest priority.

First, though, was waiting through the rest of the event to see if my name was called. It came down to the last story. I so, so wanted to share the misadventure of my friend Karyn and I canoeing on the Chattooga River, and my heart almost stopped as the LAST…name…was drawn...and…it…was….me! This particular story (listen with this link) is ridiculously funny, and it was satisfying to watch and hear the enjoyment of the crowd as they paddled along with me in this story of poor decisions, inadequate skill, and awkward professions of love from a smitten canoe seller.

The crowd was generous with their laughs, and I sat down, jittery with post-story excitement, but also aware that the event was ending, and I HAD to find that first story-teller! But where was she? I couldn’t see her, and the venue is not that big. All of a sudden it felt a little Cinderella-like – where could she have gone? I didn’t even have her name!

It turned out that someone I knew at the event was good friends with her, who I now knew was named Emma. Emma. I had to meet Emma. I wasn’t exactly sure why it felt so important other than she seemed super cool and I wanted to be friends. And then, a few months later, Echoes had a new vision of creating a collaborative structure and we needed three other pastors to help lead this church plant. Emma was the first one I thought about, and she was the first one to say yes.

So I can say without reservation that Boldly Went increases and deepens community. This is what storytelling does, and it’s why we major in stories at Echoes. From the incredibly meaningful stories we hear each month at ‘Hamster Church, to stories shared at Pub Church, to story exploration at Creative Church, to indwelling the stories of our spiritual connection with God, the created world, and each other at Indoor and Wild Church, there can’t be enough emphasis placed on the value of telling stories.

Echoes has been imminently blessed with Emma’s presence, as have I. Who would’ve known that a storytelling event could do so much? Boldly Went is hosting another one in a few weeks. Echoes even gets to be a co-host! I wonder might happen at that one? Want to put your name in the hat to share a story and see what unfolds?

 Emma’s: https://www.boldlywentadventures.com/93-on-love-and-landscape.html

Charis’: https://www.boldlywentadventures.com/86-canoe-stories.html

Gender & Sexuality Definitions To Know

We had a FABULOUS ‘Hamster Church conversation with Adrien Converse at Echoes. They provided us with some helpful definitions, which we printed and passed around to folx. Since not everyone could attend, we’re posting for the benefit of all!

Resource prepared by Adrian Converse. You can find more amazing work on their blog, deconforming.com

Definitions to know

Agender: a person who has no sense of gender. Also sometimes called genderblank or gendervoid.

Binary genders: Genders that are either man or woman. (A binary person may or may not be transgender.)

Cisgender: A person whose gender aligns with the gender they were assigned at birth; not transgender. Sometimes shortened to “cis.”

Gender dysphoria: A profound sense of unease coming from the fact that the person you are is being distorted beyond recognition.

Genderqueer: an umbrella term for a person whose gender is not strictly male nor strictly female (sometimes used synonymously with nonbinary)

Gender questioning: a person who is questioning whether or not they really are cisgender, but is not certain about their gender identity.

Gender identity: a person’s gender identity is who they are.

Intersex: a person who has a combination of male and female sex characteristics. It’s the “I” in LGBTQIA+.

Medical transition: Various medical procedures that help align a person’s physical body with the person they know themselves to be.

Misgendering: When a person is referred to as a gender that is not accurate to who they really are.

Neopronouns: a word that literally means “new pronouns.” These pronouns are used to reference people of different genders with a higher degree of nuance.

Nonbinary: a person whose gender is outside the gender binary; not strictly male nor strictly female

Social transition: The act of shifting a person’s life to align more with their gender. Includes things like changing your name, changing the gender on your birth certificate, adjusting how you dress, asking people to use different pronouns in reference to you.

Transgender: A person who was assigned a gender at birth that doesn’t match who they are.

Transgender man: a person who was assigned the female gender at birth, but who is actually male.

Transgender woman: a person who was assigned male at birth, but who is actually female.